Nearly 36 Years Ago! (Week 1)

On January 21, 1983 this happy couple was married for time and all eternity in the Oakland, California Temple for The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.  Their seven children remarks about this picture were: "Look at all that hair!"

I look fondly upon that day as I felt like Cinderella and was marrying my Prince Charming.  I had planned on serving a mission but instead chose to be married instead.  We were both young - 21 and in love.  According to Theresa DiDonato in Psychology Today, October 26, 2017 in an article titled Meet, Catch, and Keep she states that dating one to two years prior to marriage decreased the likelihood of divorce by 20 percent.  Dating three or more years decreased the likelihood of divorce to about 50 percent.  She suggests that it can be helpful to have at least a few years together prior to marriage.  

We met in July 1982 just a few weeks after Brad was released from serving a full-time mission, but knew that this marriage was the right thing for us.  We knew that as we worked together we could be a success.



Look at our family now minus a grand baby or two.


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